2026 BDSM hopes & dreams
I don't want to make new year resolutions or any sort of todo list. I pressure myself enough in my life outside of sex & BDSM, I don't want to reproduce that pattern here.
So this is not a resolution, wish or todo list. It's a hope list, a "would love to do this but if it doesn't happen I'm fine with it". Some desires go beyond the world of sex & kink.The list is absurd and too long, didn't want to silence myself.
Take more pictures
I would love to find a reliable way to take pictures regularly. Keep exploring ideas, find my aesthetics, having quality pictures, a style (I think I have leads), a nice watermark too.
Videos, "camming"
Would love to produce video content of any kind. Using my DSLR would be great. Video is a big challenge, especially with no one to film. Maybe I'll find people to give me advice.
Doing a few live sex "shows" would be nice. I loved being watched knowing people are horny and getting pleasure watching me. I love being a sexual and sexy creature.
Performance
I like pursuing performance. I love that I stretched my pussy this year and now I can use a bigger dildo and getting somewhat fisted. I wish to keep exploring that and see if I can go further.
Would love to keep doing anal training and deepthroat training. Anything requiring commitment and skill makes me proud and I love being able to do it with confidence and seeming ease.
Ropes
This has long been something in my mind. But finding internal peace to build a personal space in my life to get to practicing has always been a struggle. It has been so for many things in my life (sports, stretching, learning a musical instrument,…).
I would be so happy if I could learn a few things and get confident and comfortable with it. Easy and basic would do it. Bonus points if I could use self tying to help stim and regulate (I'm pretty sure it's something that would work).
Needle play
Similarly to ropes, exploring needle play is a challenge because of my mental health. Making space for it — though I'm sure it would be a great regulation tool — is really hard.
Practice needle play, find a few nice designs and acquire some confidence. Get more skillful. Honestly would love to learn to pierce (hears, subcutaneous,…) to start the long journey toward making scarifications. It's not really about kink for me, or not only, but putting it there because I feel like it.
Dom
Keep exploring my dom side, finding who I wanna be as a dom. Finding a few plays, sadistic activity that I'm comfortable with and enjoy doing.
Keep fucking "her" and explore intensity and connection.
Maybe find a Middle to start understanding what Care Giver relationship I want and what I can give to a Middle.
Sub
Keep exploring new kink, strengthening my confidence and understanding of the kink I have and exploring connection through them. Especially being humiliated, forced fem, CNC.
I really hope I could find some pain. Whipping or flogging would be awesome.
Finding subspace again. I haven't experienced it in years and I miss it.
Skill
Gain new skills, get better at those I have.
I love acquiring skills and the amazing feeling coming from knowing I know what I'm doing, that I'm a safe and competent partner.
Workout & stretching
Keep working out to incorporate more strength based dynamics in my plays. I really love having a stretchy (though I'm pretty stiff) and strong body and use it in sex & BDSM.
Disability justice, covid
Keep learning about disability, all the specific ways one can play with and adapt to someone with disabilities.
Keep fighting to build accessible and safe space. Keep saying "fuck off" to all space and group dynamics that don't give enough of a shit about the people who aren't there.
Big dream: make a covid cautious Munch. Bonus points if it's one during which there's play.
Sex, BDSM & being a slut
Keep unlearning shame for being sex centered and sex obsessed. Keep learning how to both own and be responsible about what a slut I am and how sex is important to my mental health and balance.
Learn more and get a deeper understanding of my relationship to sex & BDSM and be able to understand what role it plays in my relationships.
I want to get better at explaining, to my partners and people I want a close relationship with, how sex is serious, non trivial and important for me. Learn to own the fact that sex is central in my relationships.
Unlearn shame, unlearn shame unlearn shame!
Keep political
Keep being political in everything, respect my values, act according to my core principles. Be unapologetic about the fact I'm a political creature, that everything is political.
Expand my understanding and practices of responsible sex, pre-talk, health, relationship anarchy.
Keep politics in kink, sex, BDSM and relationships. Improve my skills nd gain confidence.
Write
Would love to write about all those wishes and the experience I'll get. Fiction, narrate some of my sexual and BDSM encounters, political theory about BDSM, trauma, relationship anarchy…
Care & spirituality
Learn and understand more how sex & BDSM can be used as tools to heal and provide care.